Dialogue, Date, Depart

Today is day two of my time away with my wife.  Wednesday we delivered two of our children to Grandma.  Yesterday the other two were delivered to Mamma.  Then off we went for our get away.  We decided to stay somewhat close to home and opted for the Amish Country.  Far enough to feel like we are out of town, yet close enough to not be weary after a long drive.

Our time away reminds me of a principle that Gretchen and I learned early on in our marriage, and have to this day, tried to practice.  Sometimes more successfully than others.  Long time pastor Ed Young taught us many years ago that in order to have a successful marriage, you must "dialogue daily, date weekly, and depart quarterly".  Gretchen and I have not been alone for an extended period of time together since May, so this is our quarterly departure.

We have a couple of other descriptions for it, like:  white space, margin, quiet, rest, and a time to reconnect.  The Amish Country is a perfect place to "depart".  This morning there was no extra noise.  Just the sound of horses moving down the road.  There are no cell phone signals.  Just me, my wife, a quiet room, and our books.  Pastor Young knew what he was talking about when he gave his prescription for a successful marriage.  Thank you Pastor Young for the great advice, and thank you to those who made this "departure" possible.